Attachment 101
An online course to help you strengthen your relational skills through Attachment Theory so that you can feel more secure and connected in your relationships.
I WANT THIS!Do you wonder why you chase people who don’t seem to want you quite as much as you want them?
Or why, as soon as someone tells you they like you, you want to run?
Do you seek to understand why you do what you do and how to become secure in relationships?
This course is for you if...
- You feel drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable, just got out of a relationship, or just aren't sure what they want.
- You chase, over-text, or over-communicate, and feel anxious when you don’t get a reply from someone you like.
- You feel like your partner continually withdraws or shuts down and you never resolve your fights.
- You feel like you're going crazy when you start to like someone, fluctuating between wanting to chase them or run away.
- You run from love and you don’t know if it’s your intuition or you're just scared of someone loving you.
- You constantly feel like they’re going to leave you and that you're more into them than they are into you.
- You feel like they're distant and going to abandon you.
- You feel overwhelmed and smothered by your partner like they always want more from you.
- You're tired of your insecure or avoidant patterns and ready to change and create a secure, loving and AMAZING relationship.
Does this sound like you? Then this course is for you!
I AM READY TO LEARN & GROW!
In partnership with Mark Groves at Create The Love:
'When I finally learned about Attachment Styles it was like a lightbulb went off… All of these emotional behaviors I couldn't make sense of, suddenly made sense. Why do we chase unavailable people? Why do we start to feel like we’re going crazy if someone doesn’t text back? The attachment system is essentially a radar that's constantly surveying for the safety and security of relationships. You're doing this all the time unconsciously and especially in romantic relationships, and so are your partners. I asked Silvy, the best teacher I know on Attachment theory, to build this course full of tools, insights, and actionable wisdom so you can have the same transformational change that I did." —Mark Groves
Mark Groves is a Human Connection Specialist and founder of Create The Love. He is a bridge between the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection. All. The. Things. He is an emotional translator, empowering people to give words to their feelings, step into courage, and create a life + love they’ll look back on with a resounding “f*ck yes. Most of all, he is a human being. He just happens to say most of the things that people tend to keep to themselves.
What You Get
🤍 4 Weeks of Video Lessons with Silvy guiding you through core aspects of Attachment Theory - $600 value
🤍 4 Weekly Workbooks to explore attachment tendencies and help you build more secure relationships, boundaries, and communication styles - $300 value
🤍 4 Weekly Integration Practices including meditations, affirmations, visualizations, breakthroughs - $200 value
🤍 Discover which attachment style(s) you resonate with the most, how they formed during childhood, and how they manifest in your relational behaviors as an adult.
🤍 Understand your attachment tendencies, core needs, and unique attachment strengths, and learn how to ask for the support you need.
🤍 Explore the well-known anxious-avoidant dance, learn how to support others with attachment tendencies, and master the art of making repairs after conflict more quickly.
🤍 Discover your personal boundary style and how to communicate boundaries from a place of personal responsibility, plus how to discern red flags vs self-sabotage.
🤍 Feel empowered in knowing that you have the tools you need to repair, create, and maintain secure relationships.
🤍 More quickly recognize when a relationship isn't able to meet your needs so you don’t waste time investing in relationships that don’t feel reciprocal or fulfilling.
Total Value: $1,100 Yours for only $197 USD!
I WANT THIS!What Students Are Saying
—"Thank you for even more clarity on all the attachment styles. I just finished the book Attached, but his course gave me even MORE of a deeper understanding of each style. I really believed I had more anxious tendencies based on the assessment I took, but now I’m seeing I have some fearful-avoidant tendencies as well. Great breakthrough to understand myself even more. Thanks again!!" - Kim
— "I am so truly happy to have come across Silvy and her powerful work. Many things have been surfacing for me that I am so grateful to now be present to. It feels so expansive. At times quite painful, of course, but with that comes humbleness, more space, acceptance! I really resonate with Silvy’s style of communication and expression. I feel I can really integrate what she is sharing after giving it thought on how it relates to my experience directly. It’s very practical and beautifully crafted. I’ve been feeling really reflective on this work. Thank you, thank you, thank you Silvy." - Danielle
— "The way Silvy presents boundaries, attachment styles, and communication skills has really changed my perspective. I'm making improvements in my life that I didn't know were even possible before." - Chelsea
About Silvy
Silvy Khoucasian, Relationship Coach, Writer, and Attachment Theory Specialist, uniquely fuses her thorough knowledge of attachment theory, boundaries, and creativity into her coaching and writing. She has facilitated one on one, couples, and group coaching sessions for the last 10 years. Her heart's mission is to support others in being deeply and soulfully self-connected and to use their self-awareness to create fulfilling and reciprocal relationships.
Why is it so important to learn about attachment styles? "The attachment system is a radar that's constantly surveying for the safety and security of relationships. You're doing this all the time unconsciously and especially in romantic relationships, and so are your partners."
If students only got one takeaway, what should it be? "That their ability to understand themselves and others objectively can help them to create more secure, functioning and thriving relationships as well as more quickly recognize when a relationship isn't able to meet their needs so they don’t waste time investing in relationships that don’t feel reciprocal or fulfilling."
Why Attachment Theory?
DATING & ATTACHMENT
I hit my dating low the day I asked a man this question: “What would your last partner say is your biggest flaw?” I didn’t realize I was setting him up to fail. Because as he responded with genuine vulnerability about something his ex didn’t like about him, I began to emotionally disengage the more he shared.
What I didn’t understand then, that I do now, is my fearful-avoidant attachment style tendencies had me using people's flaws to justify walking away, because anyone with fearful-avoidant tendencies struggles to tolerate uncertainty. Yet relationships – especially in the dating phase – are all about uncertainty!
Flash forward: Six more years of dating (hell), and I still struggled to connect with anyone. Over 300 dates and I’d either turn myself off by focusing on small imperfections, or I’d get quickly attached and put people (inappropriately) on pedestals that couldn’t sustain.
Dating offered me a mirror to see just how utterly disconnected I was from my own needs. It made me realize how much I wanted to connect and yet was simultaneously terrified of real connection. It allowed me to see how much I struggled to stay present for a new relationship when my anxiety would surface.
And my anxiety would always surface.
"When I began a committed relationship with my current partner, I thought I’d finally cracked the relationship code. I felt so happy, so connected, so much alignment with him. But then I hit a wall. "
Barely a few months into our relationship, the urge to run suddenly hit me hard. The deeper we went, the more exposed I felt. The more exposed I felt the more anxiety and shame stirred in me. The more anxiety and shame stirred, the more I blamed and criticized and pushed my partner away.
Fortunately, I had been diving deep into Attachment Theory at this time, which helped me see what was really going on more clearly. Thus I was able to have more compassion for myself. Thus I was able to make more sense of my story.
I still had to get in touch with my disowned needs and actually begin verbalizing them. I still had to assess my new partner’s willingness and capacity to dance with me in ways that met both our needs. And I had to manage a few unrealistic expectations I had that were merely coverups for my fearful-avoidant attachment style tendencies. Of course, I also had to learn about other people’s sensitivities and attachment style needs, too, because relationships aren’t just about me. I was so used to protecting myself, focusing on my own fears, that I often forgot how scared other people were.
Learning about attachment theory isn’t just for romantic love. It’s for all kinds of relationships. Understanding your attachment tendencies can serve your dating adventures, your long-term relationships, your friendships, even your work relationships, too.
All relationships can be a source of great pain and frustration when we are ignorant of the deeper dynamics within. And they are great sources of joy and fulfillment when we learn how to navigate them with clarity and understanding.
🤍 Silvy
Yes, Silvy! This is What I Need!